May for Kids and Parents: Mayhem, Milestones, and Meltdowns

Every May, I find myself surprised. And honestly? I shouldn’t be. I’ve been a parent for 14 years. You’d think I’d be ready by now for the chaos that hits like clockwork as the school year winds down.

But somehow, May always knocks me off my feet.

It’s a perfect storm. Suddenly, your calendar is overflowing—school concerts, field trips, sports banquets, graduation events, class parties. There are snacks to send, permission slips to sign, and thank-you gifts for teachers to think about (and find time to buy). All of it crammed into a few short weeks.

The Holderness Family captured this perfectly in their Maycember video—because yes, May is the new December. So if you’re feeling stretched thin right now, you’re not alone. May has a way of sneaking up on all of us.

Kids Feel It Too

It’s not just the grownups who are overwhelmed. Kids feel the shift, too. For some, the idea of summer break is exciting. But for others—especially kids who struggle with anxiety—the end-of-year transition can be less fun.

Think about it: the school routine they’ve relied on for the past nine months is starting to unravel. The days get less predictable. Field day, while fun for many, can be a source of stress for kids who thrive on structure and predictability. Then there are the end-of-year assemblies, graduation ceremonies, and summer plans to think about. Just when you thought school avoidance was behind you, it might start to creep back in

Even positive change is still change, and kids feel that in their own way.

Teachers Are in the Thick of It

Let’s not forget our teachers. They’re trying to wrap up lessons, finish report cards, manage last-minute projects, and keep everyone (themselves included) from completely losing steam. It’s a lot—for everyone.

So What Can We Do?

Here’s the good news: just acknowledging that this time of year is a lot can help take some of the pressure off. You don’t need to do it all perfectly. You can say no to things. You can let some stuff slide. And it’s okay if you (and your kids) are feeling a little more emotional or tired than usual right now.

If your child is struggling with the end-of-year rollercoaster, try checking in with them more often. Ask how they’re feeling. Normalize their stress or worry. Remind them that transitions—even exciting ones—can be hard, and that they’re not alone in feeling that way.

And don’t forget to extend that same compassion to yourself. This season is full, yes—but it’s also temporary.

You’ve got this.